Recently, Stephen sent me this Slate article about the privacy of children in today’s online world. The author says she posts no photos or videos of her child online, and she and her husband went so far as to run their name selection through a google search to see what came up. They also set up an email address, a domain name, and social media accounts for their daughter when she was born.
It’s true that anything we post online is, or potentially will be, available to the public at large someday, even if you keep a tight reign on your privacy settings. We (society) have been trying to drill this into the heads of young people for years now. We admonish them to think about what they post, what photos they take. Teachers and parents have tried to prove to kids how quickly things can go viral (and wrong!) by using “Like this photo” posts on facebook. Of course, some adults should probably think twice about what they post, as well… (No, dear, not you!)
I had already sworn to myself that I would not be one of those people on facebook that only posts photos of their children. I have friends who do that and I have to say, I’d like to see more of YOU, and less of your child than what I currently see. (No, no, dear friend, I’m not talking about you!) My facebook account is about my life, and, hopefully, there will be far more going on in my life than just my child. Yes, you can laugh at me now, but I do not want my child to become the only thing in my world. I hope to still have my own passions outside of my child, and I hope to have other things to talk about. I figured I would post a few photos here and there, though, since he will be part of my life, and it’s the easiest way for extended family and distant friends to see the baby.
I had also already decided to keep all distinguishing photos of Baby J off my blog, and to continue referring to him as Baby J, even after we do have a name for him. What I mean by that is, I might post a photo of his foot or his head, but not his face. Private photo sharing and video accounts will be accessible only to those people who have the full link. I don’t want cute/funny videos of him to go viral, and, especially as he gets older, I don’t want strangers to have access to pictures of him to do God Knows What with (if you know what I mean).
Stephen and I discussed it, and he agreed that the author of the original article went a tad bit overboard, and he’s okay with my current privacy plans. They may evolve. I admit, I may end up being one of those parents whose whole lives revolve around the child. My facebook friends may be wondering what I look like in a year, because the only photos I post (including my profile picture) are of my child. But I seriously hope not.
What are your thoughts on this subject? Is it completely okay with you that strangers may be able to access photos and videos of your kids? Are you just as privacy minded as the author of the Slate article? Let me know by commenting below!